I don't mean any disrespect to women at all. That's not the point by my writings. I respect women. In fact, one of the reasons I created the "yes maam protocol" is because of the fact I respect them. I love my kids. I have made many sacrifices for my wife and family. I mean, I could be simgle right now with my pockets jingling. I could be single living in a world with no one criticizing the way I walk out of the bathroom. I could be single living with no kids, and no reason to get up at 6:00 in the morning, and to drag to soccer games at 8:00 in the morning on my only day off of the week.I could be living by myself in a clean house with a keg of beer in the fridge, instead of kids who disrespect me, never clean their rooms, mess up my rooms, tell me they hate me when I ask them to do something simple like, "Get dressed."
Actually, I love all that stuff. I mean, all the stress that comes with marriage, with having kids. I love it. I also love the power that comes with having kids. The knowing that I have children who will share the same values as me. Children to play catch with and to keep me young. All that stuff I love. I love the fact I have gray hairs dropping down from my nares because of all the stress of having a family and a job to basically make money that goes directly to my wife leaving me with barely enough money to buy a 12 pack of beer. And I think my wife is very reasonable most of the time. I think she is the most beautiful, most honest, intelligent woman I could have possibly ever met. She's good looking as a bonus, although that was never a goal of mine to have the most beautiful woman. I will honestly say that my wife is my soul mate. We were meant for each other.
Yet that's not to say she doesn't still live on the planet Venus, compared to me living on the planet Mars. Did you ever read that book, "Men are from Mars, Women from Venus." That was a pretty accurate protrayal of the differences between man and women. The only problem with that book is that when I read it I felt I changed ever so slightly so I could relate to my wife all the more. I changed. Isn't that something that we guys are born to do. We are born to make the changes necessary to make our marriages work. We make the changes necessary for the world to continue functioning in relative peace. For if we guys don't make changes, there will be no peace.
What I mean by this is that it would be easy for me to nag women about all the things we hate that they do. I mean, I hate it when she spends 25 hours in the bathroom every morning. I hate it when she wears that ugly brown dress to outings. Yet I don't say anything. I adjust. I say nothing because if I say I hate that fucking dress she gets all pissy with me. I hate it when she asks me what I think of her dress all the while expecting me to say, "I love it dear," instead of telling her the fucking truth.
So, I changed. I learned to keep my mouth shut. I learned to always "Love" whatever she wears, even though sometimes she says, "I hope you're telling me the truth.". Now, she complains about me when my hair is messy, when my pants are too baggy or dirty, and she complains when I don't shave. Yet, if I complained about anything on her possession, I am a dirty, useless scum. Seriously, she even called me that the other day when I broke one of her "rules." So, we guys change to keep the peace in our marriages and the world. We adjust. We form protocols like the "yes maam protocol" to keep the peace. That's what we do. Women don't change. They continue to critique or do whatever they do. We men change. And, to be honest, it's fine with me. That's just the role of being a man. We are the peace keepers.
Now don't get me started on rules. That's something I'll have to get into in my next post. I would say I have one rule to every 100 of hers. That's why I think women get so uptite all the time, is because on Venus there are a lot of rules. And if a rule gets broken all hell breaks lose. That's why women get all upset even when something minor happens, like I drop a kernel of popcorn on the livingroom carpet.
"Why do you eat popcorn in the livingroom? You know we have a rule about no eating popcorn in the livingroom!"
Now, according to the "Yes maam protocol" my role here is to say, "Yes maam!" Right? Remember that. It's my job to keep the peace. I'm sure it's not this way in all marriages, but that's how it is in my household anyway. So, say I decide I WANT to continue eating popcorn in the livingroom. So, I decide to brave it, and say, "Honey, I enjoy eating popcorn while I'm watching movies."
"Well, every time you do that you make a mess. I'm tired of you making a mess bla bla bla bla bla... (5 minutes later).... and that's why I don't want you eating popcorn in the livingroom."
"Honey, I don't have such a rule. It's your rule. I didn't make a popcorn rule. Where did this popcorn rule come from anyway?"
That, my friends, was a big mistake. The noble thing for me to have done there was to not say anything right from the get go, to get my popcorn out of the livingroom, and to sit next to her, rub her feet which I sometimes do, and snuggle with her and make her happy. But for some reason this day I wasn't in the mood for that. However, note, I was not in a bad mood. I was in a good mood and still am, yet, at this point, she says, "WHY ARE YOU IN SUCH A BAD MOOD TONIGHT!"
Right on cue. So it's up to we guys to be proactive, to avoid such conversatins, because we all know if there is any discussion about one of her rules, IT'S YOUR FAULT. Thus, women have rules, men change to accomodate. And if there is a man out there who is not good at changing, it's those guys - I think -- who are the most likely to get divorced or have unhappy marriages. That, my friends, is why it's important to understand that one of the major roles of manhood is the ability to know when to keep your mouth shut, and implement the, "Yes Maam protocol."